Turning Miserable into Grateful

Wow, what a miserable day.

Nothing, in particular, happened to make it any more miserable than any other day. I just have this constant feeling of, well, doom.

Gosh, that’s a harsh word, but I’m not sure I can come up with anything better to describe it. Sometimes the “doom feelings” creep in, and I can’t shake them. I’m basically on the verge of tears all day.

The kids have an “asynchronous” day every Wednesday from school, which means they have about 10 minutes of work. Honestly, this school year is a mess. They are doing the best they can, and so are the teachers, but it constantly feels like the whole system is imploding right before my eyes. The chatter and the rumors that even next year will be affected completely stresses me out. So much so I can’t even spend any more time thinking about it. I’m going to have a junior in high school this year who has barely seen the inside of his building.

As for me, I have a face-to-face class in the morning on Mondays and Wednesdays that is completely draining. This course is one of my favorites to teach, but I’m struggling. Half the class stopped coming. The other half barely pays attention. I tried to fight through it the first couple of months, but I can’t keep up the motivation when I get nothing in return. Again, the vibe in the classroom is very gloom-and-doom. It’s hard to get excited about teaching and learning animation or sound editing when the world feels so broken.

In contrast, I have a face-to-face course on Tuesday morning that energizes me. So maybe it’s just the luck of the draw. Every class has a personality, and sometimes, the mix of students and teacher just doesn’t work.

Another big issue for me right now is the lack of a consistent schedule. The kids are in school only two days a week. I have classes at different times every day. I don’t go into the office to escape because the campus is a ghost town, and the kids need me here. So I can’t really focus on anything without being pulled in a million directions.

Some days I run in the morning, some days in the afternoon. I hit the gym when I can, but not with any regular, scheduled consistency. I’m all over the place, and there doesn’t seem to be anything on the horizon telling me this will change anytime soon.

Today, for example, I worked all day, leaving the house at 8:30 for my face-to-face course. Then I have to rush home by 11:15 for a remote class. Afterward, I spent the afternoon grading then another remote class at 2:30. I ended up helping students via chat for a good hour before making dinner, eating dinner, and driving the teen to work. Since his shift was only three hours, I decide to go to the gym and then pick him up afterward.

It was the first time I did that, and I must say, it was nice. I had the gym to myself, and I just worked through my strength program.

Relaxing after making it through most of my programming.

Anyway, every day feels like this impossible juggling act, and I’m losing the motivation to keep all the balls in the air.

And see, now I feel like I’m complaining when I have so much to be grateful for, and then that just makes me feel even worse. This is a shitty cycle to be in, and I’m just over it.

I refuse the end this post on a negative note so let me focus on some positives about the day.

  • I was given some positive feedback on a proposal I submitted for work.
  • I got my run in and that’s day 401 in my mile-a-day minimum streak!
  • The 10-year-old and I ate dinner solo because The Husband was tied up with a project and The Teen was getting ready for work. We had a great conversation. I love it when we just chat and spend time together without interruption.
  • The Teen and I also chatted on the drive home about lots of stuff. And look how cute he is at work…
My baby at WORK!

See, I feel better already. To those of you who have been commenting, thank you so much. I really appreciate the positive interactions. I needed this back in my life.

10 replies on “Turning Miserable into Grateful”

Your a awesome Mom, wife & teacher….we are all struggling & every word you said resonated with me.

Thank you. On one hand it feels great to know I’m not alone. On the other hand it sucks that we are collectively feeling this. 🙁

Had the same kind of day today. Thanks for putting it into words for me. Deep sigh.

Do I know how you feel! Back in the good old days, i always had a love hate relationship with summer because of the lack of any kind of routine. This last year has seemed like an endless summer of endless days. I’m really looking forward to going back to normal! You’re lucky the Big Kid is working, mine is same age, but is super into his support so instead I drive him back and forth 7 days a week. We’re still (by choice) fully remote, but our days are numbered and the world will get back to normal soon. These extra days with my kid, where we play ping pong and do puzzles will feel like a gift in 2 years when he’s off to college. Glad you are back to posting, am i showing my age when I say i prefer blogs to social media?

Well, if you are showing your age, I’m showing mine. I’m so much happier expressing myself here than on the social sites. It feels like they all got out of hand or something.

Thank you for this post. I also feel “doom” some days despite all the wonderful things in my life. Hearing that others are having similar experiences helps me feel less alone.

I’m guessing it’s pretty normal?? I just wish I could manage my outlook about it a little better. Writing and connecting with others helps for sure!

I love that he’s working at a snowball stand! I have been following you since he was the toddler 🙂 Did you say he’s a JUNIOR?!?!?!?!? Some days we just get credit for showing up and it sounds like you did, despite it all. That’s what counts. Some days you’re the windshield, some days you’re the bug.

He’ll be a junior this fall if we can make it through this school year! And thanks. You’re right.. yesterday was a windshield day. 🙂

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